Sebrina Glenn’s whole life has changed, and this 1997 Southeast Missouri State University graduate has become a stay-at-home-mom after adopting three children at once.
“We went from zero children to three children in one day,” Sebrina says. “To say it was an adjustment is an understatement. We went from a small car to a seven passenger van, a quiet house to one that never hears silence anymore, and I became a ‘soccer mom’ overnight when before my night consisted of sitting on the couch hugging on a dog or a cat.”
Before Sebrina became a stay-at-home-mom, she received her Bachelor of Science in business management from Southeast and her master’s degree in education from the University of Missouri-Kansas City. She attended Southeast because it was affordable. She says she was raised at the poverty level and was the first person in her family to go to college.
“Southeast made that dream a reality by being reasonably priced for a student who had no money,” Sebrina says. “I will be forever grateful for the scholarships, financial aid and jobs that I got on campus.”
Sebrina’s favorite Southeast memory is living in Cheney Hall. She was the president of Hall Council and knew everyone because of the small residence hall size. She still has friends from Cheney, and they are having a reunion in August.
After receiving her master’s degree from the University of Missouri-Kansas City, Sebrina worked as a coordinator for residence life at Missouri Western State University. She then married and moved to North Carolina, working in various positions in the housing and residence life office at the University of North Carolina-Greensboro. She and her husband moved back to Missouri to be closer to their families, and each found positions working at Missouri State University. Sebrina worked in residence life for 12 years and then worked as the assistant registrar.
“Southeast prepared me both inside and outside the classroom for my career in higher education,” Sebrina says.
“Having a degree in business management gave me great communication skills, management skills, etc. My outside the classroom experiences gave me my leadership and people skills. I truly believe I received a well-rounded education during my time at Southeast.”
Sebrina loves working with college students and says she knew from the moment she set foot on Southeast’s campus she wanted to work on a college campus.
“I was a first-time college student and was fortunate to have great people who worked with me at Southeast,” she says.
Sebrina would like to tell current Southeast students to live their college life to the fullest and get involved in extracurricular activities. She says most of her memories happened outside of the classroom.
“I’m not saying the classroom isn’t important, because it is,” she says. “Just don’t make that the only thing that is important. Be a leader on campus. Residence Life is a great way to get involved. However, there are all kinds of opportunities waiting for you. There are student activities, orientation leaders, work in an office, join an organization. Just be involved somehow!”
Sebrina currently lives in Springfield, Mo., with her husband, Joseph, and three children, Devin, Sa’Reena and Autumn. She and her family will be moving to Eddyville, Iowa, in July.
“My family is about having experiences and memories,” she says. “We try to find new things to do and explore all the time.”
Sebrina’s future plans include being a stay-at-home-mom for her children.
“It took me a long time to come to grips with the fact that feminism is about having choices, not necessarily about having to be a mom who works outside the home,” she says. “Once I made that realization emotionally, not just intellectually, then I made the best decision for me and my family.”
Sebrina and her husband chose to go through the foster system to adopt. They say it was a daily struggle to be an advocate not only for themselves but also for their children. They had to work with many people in order to make their dream a reality.
“I would love to say it was the most joyful experience I’ve ever had, but it wasn’t. The end product, on the other hand, is the most rewarding experience I have ever had,” she says.
After adopting their children, Sebrina and her husband had to deal with the complications of becoming a mixed race family, since their children are African American, but they knew they wanted to adopt a minority child from the beginning of the process.
“There is a high need for families to adopt minority children,” Sebrina says. “Most people want to adopt a baby who looks like them. We adopted a 5-, 6- and 9-year old who look different than us. This has brought a lot of challenges our way as a family. We have had to face discrimination a few times. However, we are raising our children to feel good about who they are, regardless of their skin color or any other differences that may make them unique. We have frank conversations about being different in our house on a daily basis.”
Sebrina says it is like the children are her biological children with how they seem to have all the same quirks that she and her husband have.
“They are having a great childhood, and we are making sure of it,” she says. “Every day they impress us and drive us nuts all at the same time. Our lives are full of chaos, but it is the greatest chaos ever. My children are worth everything that we went through and continue to go through.”